Life Lessons . . .

Asalaam ‘Alaikum Everyone:

I know lately we haven’t been “out much” and it has been too quiet. The stress level has increased a bit over here but the girls are learning valuable lessons (as I am) about life. As you know – we’ve been busy with baby and then school has also started with the K12 program. So far, things are going well with school – although it is quite an adjustment for us. My oldest already has some favorite classes and gladly and happily tells everyone she meets all about what she is learning.

A dear elderly Muslim friend of ours lately has taken quite ill. She has no family so we kind of adopted each other since we met 7 years ago. She was able to visit us in the hospital within hours of whenever my children were born so she definitely feels part of the family. My girls love her and treat her like a grandmother and dear friend. However, her health has been failing – first being admitted to the hospital and eventually being admitted to a nursing home. It has been quite a difficult transition for her – but she has decided that staying in a nursing home is the best option for her because she just can’t handle doing things on her own anymore (she is 72). While she is there – and since she has no family – I have had to take the role of caregiver and I have also had to deal with moving her belongings (deciding what to keep/not to keep); making medical decisions with her and financial decisions on her behalf.

It has not been easy – understatement there! However, I feel that she deserves this as a part of our Muslim Community and no one else is willing to step in to help. The hard part is that everytime you think you are making progress – there are obstacles to overcome and usually difficult people to deal with (especially on the part of the nursing home itself and their inability to communicate and provide decent care).

So, why am I rambling on about this? Well, first of all, that’s why I’ve been quiet. Second of all, I wanted to mention that through this difficulty the girls are definitely learning more about life and how we approach it as a Muslim, insha’Allah. They are learning the importance of community in Islam and they are also learning about Compassion – insha’Allah. I have tried to stress to them that while I love this sister – that the most important tie that binds us is Islam. That we love for the sake of Allah – and that, while things like this might not be easy to deal with – we need to be there for each other.

They are also learning that at some point we do get old and that life is then not as easy as it may be now. They also see the injustice of other people and they realize that many people in our community are just not willing to help out those in need. Insha’Allah – some day it will make them be better Muslims.

I hope, insha’Allah, this lesson will teach them compassion for their fellow Muslim and they will understand their important role in being a member of the Muslim community – and the community at large. I hope, insha’Allah, that they will remember these moments and truly understand loving another person for the sake of Allah. They have gotten frustrated at times – because they realize that many people in the community don’t want to bother with people they don’t know – aren’t willing to lend a helping hand or a smile. Alhumdulilah- even now my girls drag me halfway across a store just to give the greetings of Salaam to another Muslim. (Masha’allah – the smiles they receive can be so contagious!) So, I guess while our Muslim communities become more divided and people become less concerned about one another; when many Muslims today do not even greet one another unless they are friends – insha’Allah my girls will be learning that while many Muslim people may not be truly living in the spirit of Islam – that Islam does provide the perfect model for society. And, when implemented – it makes us all strive to be a better person, insha’Allah.

Insha’Allah you shall hear more about our learning adventures – we aren’t done yet! However, it may take some time.


Please – find it in your hearts to assist an elderly person in your community. You cannot even imagine what obstacles they have to overcome – what loneliness and despair they may have to deal with on a daily basis. In a country where we are all alone – unless for those of you who actually have extended family here – it is not easy – especially for those who are elderly. You should not underestimate the value of a smile – a helping hand – an arm to lean on. Please reach out to them. And, for those of you who have the time, please make dua for my friend and her health, insha’Allah – I know she would truly be grateful. Jazak Allah khair.


Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: Messenger of Allah (PBUH) said, “By Him in Whose Hand my soul is! You will not enter Jannah until you believe, and you shall not believe until you love one another. May I inform you of something, if you do, you love each other. Promote greeting amongst you (by saying As-salamu `alaikum to one another)”. [Muslim]

Asalaam ‘Alaikum,

Sumayyah Umm SAA

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  1. Umm Luqman says:

    As salamu alaikum

    Sis May Allah reward you for all your efforts. We surely don’t make time for eachother like we should. That sister is very blessed to have you. What a valuable lesson for your children.
    Keep us informed on the K 12 I put my daughter in another Cyberschool She’s highschool and it is a disappointment.

    As salamu alaikum

  2. marium says:

    Assalamualykum wa rahmatullaho wa barakatoho

    May Allaah swt make it easier for the sr. and for you, and bless you all with the best of this life the best of the hereafter and good health, ameen.

    This has been a valuble lesson/ reminder to us as well. Jk for taking the time to share.
    May Allaah swt reward you with the best of rewards.


  3. Salamualaykum,

    I just now wandered into this web log by accident after following a link at myislamweb to your blogger web log, in a new thread of Muslim blogs.

    I have a real invested interest in homeschooling and what materials are currently available specifically for homeschooling Muslim children. My boys are now 15, 13, and 10, but I am interested in material for younger children also.

    I have homeschooled my sons in the past, but not since I formally oriented my own education within the Ummah; and since then my sons have been removed from me through the family courts to live with their father, only because of his having more money, and administrative errors in the court system, and the fact that I let my sons have a holiday with their father whom is a non-believer. There were false allegations made about me in respect of toilet wudu and also my real relationship with an Aboriginal man whom had asked me to marry him, but now will not since my reputation was extremely damaged by the court case. The situation is dragging on and on without a trial date yet even set.

    So in that context, I am sure that my sons will need to be really mollycoddled in their education as soon as they are back with me again.

    While my sons have not been with me, I have been undertaking developing my craft as a writer, and have written many many poems in Islam, and also other essays. Most of it is all too far in mind of the need of adults whom don’t know often very much about Islam, to be immediately useful to what I am intending in future. However, I am thinking now towards undertaking an education degree, in combination with study of Muslim theology, so as to put together a formal homeschooling cirriculum which can introduce Islam to Indigenous Australians, and also place Islam within that context in which Christian believers are enabled to convert. I know that in the USA there are some major homeschooling packages available through the Churches, and I am wondering if such a thing exists yet for Muslims? Clearly we might find a market for one such major package, and minor add ins, within each of the schools of Islam, and for each distinct Tawheed pattern.

    Can you please give me an idea of whether there are any such items already available in the Enlgish language?

    and Ramadan Mubarrak Rebecca

  4. Have you ever thought of producing such materials professionally for the Muslim market?

  5. Asalaam ‘Alaikum:

    Yes, I have thought of it – and actually tried. Unfortunately, no one was willing or interested at the time. It would take too much effort for me to market them myself.

    Asalaam ‘Alaikum,
    Sumayyah Umm Sadiqah – Asma – Ayah

  6. huda umm harris says:

    Assalam Alaikum,
    MashaAllah sister you are doing a marvellous job , Jazak Allah Khair, keep up the good work.

    Assalam Alaikum

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